Have you ever been in a terrible fight with your friend, your family, and especially your loved one?
Well, I don’t know about you, but it happens to me almost all the time.
A fight, or an argument, or whatever you might call it, is inevitable in any social relationship including the romantic one which will be the main subject of today.
The result, unless you are lucky enough to solve the problem, is usually bad and unexpected. But it doesn’t mean at all destructive if you are to work it out. As both scientifically and practically proven, a fight, if handled well, can even be healthy and refreshing to your relationship.
So, how can you treat a fight so that it won’t be an obstacle to your valuable relationship?
Below are 3 easy yet useful steps that I usually apply to get over a fight:
1. Address the problem
Think about your problem carefully and rationally. When possible, write down exactly what has happened to you and your partner.
Oftentimes, an argument is the consequence of two things: your emotions and the real situation.
- Let’s deal with your emotions first. You might feel uncomfortable, annoyed or even angry with your significant one. That’s totally normal. But remember never to make such a big deal about the argument when you’re still pretty mad. Try out some anger management techniques. Here is one that I recommend. Choose one that is suitable for you and chill out before you two can talk.
- Now that you’ve calmed yourself down, let’s get to the second part: the situation. Think about what has actually happened and what can take place after that. Write them all down.
2. Speak out
Are you a sufferer or are you a troublemaker?
No matter who you are, speak out!
Tell them how you feel. Get them into your world. Show them what you think to be the reasons of the row. Apologize if you need to.
And if you care enough about your relationship and your significant other–who is sincerely sorry for what you guys have been through–be willing to forgive.
3. Make up
After you have shown your true feelings and everything seems to have fallen into place now, it’s time for stage 3: make up.
Keep in mind that everything may not be what it seems.
Sometimes when you think that you have solved a problem and the storm has been lulled, things can turn out differently.
After a fight, there can be a scar left. And your job now is to heal that scar and give your relationship some time to get back on tracks.
Believe me! As long as love still exists, everything will be just fine.
Do these make sense to you? And how will you deal with a love fight? Let me know.
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